At church the 2nd part of "Tough Conversations" today was on what about us? Are we living life or making choices that others are thinking that maybe they need to have a tough convo with us?
The best way to make tough conversations easier, is to be open & willing to learn/change and to go up to someone you respect/admire and ask for their advice/wisdom/counsel.
Proverbs talks alot about wisdom, and how the wise seek wise counsel.
Makes sense right?
But what do so many of us do?
We ask advice from our friends, from people who will tell us what we want to hear. How many times do we REALLY ask for advice before making big decisions? What about advice in life period?
Real wisdom is having an ABUNDANCE of wise counsel - this means that each time we have a big choice to make: relationship, financial, future, etc. we should ask more than one person - like say 5 or 6, AND (this is the important part!!) ONLY ask people who are SUCCEEDING in that area.
What do I mean?
Lets say you met someone, you think they are pretty special and are thinking about "dating" them - dont' ask your friends who are on bf #6 or divorced, ask a few of your "couple" friends who have been married for a few years and have successful, thriving relationships. They know how it works. They can give you good advice.
Thinking of buying a car? or making some other large financial decision? Ask people who are financial secure and make wise financial choices. Don't ask your broke cousin Jim Bob, or your besty who spends all her money on clothes shopping.
Wise people continue to seek advice from other wise counsel. Once they start making good choices they are being wise, but they do not stop there, they are wise, so they know to KEEP getting counsel and advice.
I'm off to make my list of "wise counselors" in my life so I will not use that as an excuse when decisions come my way. :)
Oh and of course - prayer is good! The Lord is the BEST counselor, but we need to seek face-to-face counsel as His word says too!
"There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven. A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing. A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak. A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace." Ecclesiastes 3:1-8