Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

"There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven. A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing. A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak. A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace." Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Thursday, December 2, 2010

The past month of Thankfullness

Every November I try to purpose each day to be thankful for something different. ON facebook people were posting it each day, and I started out doing that... but then I started not getting on there every day, so I was playing "catch-up" on my days of thankfulness and decided instead that I am going to just list 30 things I am thankful for.
But I wonder...
can this mindset carry over to the other 335 days of the year?
Can we all Purpose to slow down and give thanks for something each and every day?
I like this challenge, I think it will keep us with a positive focus on our lives if we did this.

I am thankful for (and not really in this order) :
1. Jon - he is such a caring, kind & loving husband who makes me laugh and is supportive of me
2. Karlie - she is such a bright, sweet girl, making each new thing she learns such an exciting time
3. Our Families - their love, support and willingness to help and wanting to be involved in our lives is so great!
4. Our Friends - we are blessed with so many awesome people in our lives! Some are far, some are near, some have been where we are just starting and offer great insight and advice, other are in the same life stages and can commiserate, and others are in totally different walks of life and offer different views on things; everyone keeping us well rounded, educated & loved in different ways.
5. Phones! For being able to communicate instantly & hear peoples voices, or send a quick text
6. A warm home - being safe from the elements of weather
7. Cars - being able to go visit friends & family quickly, warmly and safely
8. FOUR seasons of weather here in Idaho - right now the bright white snow of our winter wonderland, the fresh new colors of spring, the heat and greenery of summer and the vibrant colors of fall.
9. Cameras to capture the precious moments in life and add more to our memories
10. Sleep for 6+ hrs- sure missed it and won't take it for granted!
11. ENERGY!!  Love being able to DO stuff and not feel like it takes everything I have to accomplish the bare minimum
12. All the Service Men & Women who protect & fight for our country, I am grateful for their sacrifice for my freedom
13. Talented hair-stylist friends who do my hair & help me feel prettier
14. Christmas music on the radio for ALL to hear!
15. Christian music stations: Air1 & KTSY - again for ALL to hear! :) what a great freedom
16. "God First Fridays" at our church the Pursuit - great way to start the month
17. Our Church the Pursuit - a great community of believers & friends
18. Freedom to worship & pray to The Lord
19. CLEAN Running water!! - not having to go to some water hole and HOPE it was clean :P
20. Doctors and the ability to go to one right away, locally!
21. Jon's jobs - that God has provided and provides for us through
22. Tea - soothing to the soul and tastebuds :)
23. Instant HOT water - so nice to not bathe in cold stuff or boil it
24. Beds - sooo much more cozy than a floor
25. Having family close by so Karlie can play with her cousins
26. Shovels to move the snow with... (although now my shoulders, neck & arms are sooo sore & worn out from shoveling yesterday! I even have a BLISTER!!!?! what a wussy I am! haha)
27. Facebook for being able to keep on peoples lives
28. Electricity, so nice to be warm and have lights! and cook without a fire
29. Nap time - time to myself!
30. lazy days - okay ran out of things! haha, but I do like them! :)

Sunday, November 21, 2010

chapters ending and new ones beginning

There have been some big things happening in out lives right now. Some good, some not so good, some sad. In the last month We have celebrated 4 family birthdays (Karlie, Jon, Katrina & Caleb), mourned the loss of a besty's mil, the loss of my grandma's dear close friend Pete, & the loss of my friend's friend's nephew who was only 4 months old,  rejoiced with my friend Ashley who just gave birth to her sweet Aliyah Grace, was offered a great job in S. CA & contemplated moving there - turned it down, have been offered a house to be bought for us while we sell our house - have been house hunting since, did the family Halloween visiting, loving my weekly womens bible study, hosting our weekly life group & sharing life with those friends, enjoyed having friends over for a playdate, trying to learn how to simplify and de-clutter life, getting frustrated with yet determined to save money with couponing, running around with a 1yr old, babysitting nieces, surviving the cold weather and beautiful first snowfalls while making Thanksgiving plans with our two families, and trying to make it a point to reach out to family & friends more.

It has felt like A LOT going on... and now that I see it written out... it has been a lot. Ups, Downs, Ups. Busy busy busy.
But its been good. God is good. 
Often I feel so overwhelmed, not knowing where to even begin. I have lists with lists on them. I quit making lists as it just felt like nothing was happening, and more stuff just needed doing.
Now that we are house-hunting, I feel more pressure to clean out our home and start on the fixing-up for selling it.

And then, I get to catch a running, smiley, goofy-toothed happy baby that is smiling just for me. WOW. This love that God created in us for our children is amazing. NOTHING feels so full and precious and special. I am in awe of how much I love this girl. I knew I loved her before she was born, but that love grows and multiplies... to think that the Lord loves us even more, blows my mind. I can't imagine loving a child more. I would if I could, but I feel like I could burst at times.
I definitely have a new appreciation for my mom. 
And it gives me new eyes to look at choices that I make... and ones my friends make.
I think how I would hate for Karlie to make some of the choices my friends are making, or ones I have made. All I want to do is protect her and give her the best. I want her to be deeply in love with the Lord and I pray that HE can keep working on & changing me so that I can be a good example for her to follow.
I now understand how it must hurt the Lord when we sin and make bad choices... for I mourn when my friends make choices that are not the best. I look at them with these mother eyes and wonder what their mom would think? Not in a judging way, because I do not think I am any better, but in a way that I want to protect them too, I want to help them succeed and not go through unnecessary pain and bad things. But I have to remember that I have a BIG God. That I can trust the Lord to take care of them and keep after them, so that I can just love them and be there for them. That HE has a plan and purpose for all of us, even when we stumble, even when we make bad choices, and that HE really does love us unconditionally with an abundant love that we cannot fathom.
so, in all these chapters of life... my BIG God is there. He is holding & healing the hurting hearts, He is cheering on the rejoicing, He is directing our paths as we seek His ways. In each chapter, He is the continuous presence.
-bek-

where does your wisdom come from?

At church the 2nd part of "Tough Conversations" today was on what about us? Are we living life or making choices that others are thinking that maybe they need to have a tough convo with us?

The best way to make tough conversations easier, is to be open & willing to learn/change and to go up to someone you respect/admire and ask for their advice/wisdom/counsel.

Proverbs talks alot about wisdom, and how the wise seek wise counsel.
Makes sense right?
But what do so many of us do?
We ask advice from our friends, from people who will tell us what we want to hear. How many times do we REALLY ask for advice before making big decisions? What about advice in life period?
Real wisdom is having an ABUNDANCE of wise counsel - this means that each time we have a big choice to make: relationship, financial, future, etc. we should ask more than one person - like say 5 or 6, AND (this is the important part!!) ONLY ask people who are SUCCEEDING in that area.
What do I mean?
Lets say you met someone, you think they are pretty special and are thinking about "dating" them - dont' ask your friends who are on bf #6 or divorced, ask a few of your "couple" friends who have been married for a few years and have successful, thriving relationships. They know how it works. They can give you good advice.
Thinking of buying a car? or making some other large financial decision? Ask people who are financial secure and make wise financial choices. Don't ask your broke cousin Jim Bob, or your besty who spends all her money on clothes shopping.

Wise people continue to seek advice from other wise counsel. Once they start making good choices they are being wise, but they do not stop there, they are wise, so they know to KEEP getting counsel and advice.

I'm off to make my list of "wise counselors" in my life so I will not use that as an excuse when decisions come my way. :)
Oh and of course - prayer is good! The Lord is the BEST counselor, but we need to seek face-to-face counsel as His word says too!
-b-

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Tough Conversations

Sunday's sermon was about talking TO our friends who claim to be Christians, fellow Christ followers, who are making wrong choices, instead of talking ABOUT them/their choices. WHY is it so hard for us to speak in love to them, about wrong/bad choices they are making? If we REALLY DO LOVE THEM, why would we not want to help them go in the correct path??

I know for myself I have a few friends who claim to be christians, but are totally not living LIKE Christ.  Their "faith" consists of just believing in Christ, but they are making "wrong" life choices.  I have a hard time talking to them, because I too, made wrong choices in my past. I am definitely not perfect and definitely still struggle with choosing what Christ would want vs. my fleshy- world-loving self. I struggle with them thinking I am judging them. I have been accused of that, when I wasn't even telling someone what to do, they just "felt" like I felt I was better than them, and that really was like a slap in the face, as I have always tried REALLY hard to not be that judgmental christian. But maybe that's what that the problem was. It was ME trying. It was not me asking God to help me be more like Him.

And so, here I am. Wanting desperately to talk to these people I LOVE so much, that their unhealthy choices actually really causes me to hurt FOR them, and I am praying for God to speak through me and to use me to show them I love them and want THE BEST. Not that I am judging them, but that their actions and choices, are leading them down a painful path.
I feel like I need to have the "right" answers for them and what they need to do next instead, but I don't. I have asked God for it, but maybe that is what HE needs to show them, IF/WHEN THEY ask Him?

Tough conversations are just that... tough. I am not wanting fear to hold me back, or denial that they aren't heading in a good direction, or being a slacker to what God is wanting me to do and ignoring His request... but I don't know how to start a conversation that is tough like this.

Do you know someone you need to have a tough conversation with? This isn't a time to point out flaws and sins, its a time to point out Christ and His Love and our desire to truly HELP our friend(s). Not that we know everything, at all! But that we love them so much, we are WILLING to have that tough conversation.
-bek-

Monday, November 15, 2010

Make each day count.

well, my original plan of posting daily already has not happened. :P  but oh well, this is my blog and I guess I can do whatever! ;) haha  The days have been full, as each day with my supergirl toddler is always busy!
My heart is hurting for a friend (& her husband/family), as her mother-in-law passed away thursday night, after a long battle with cancer. She was only in her 40s... so young. I know when I was younger I thought 40s was old, but now that I'm about to turn 30, its not that far away. It brought back this dream I had a while ago... I had just got news that I had just a few months to live and I was thinking of all the things I wish I had done, but was too scared, busy or was just putting-off to another day. I was thinking "I wish I had done those things. You don't know how many days you have, so we have to take each one we have and use it to the fullest!! :)
Maybe we don't do things because it "might be" awkward...  okay, it might be. But what if it isn't? And if it is, how long do you think that awkwardness will last? Really, you aren't going to be thinking a year later, "oh man, that was SO awkward! I really regret it." Pretty sure that's not gonna be the thought.
So, do yourself a favor. Do something TODAY, that you have wanted, but have been uncertain about. Me? Well, I am going to sit down and make that list of things I want to do, and start figuring out how to do them. I'm going to have a few tough conversations with a few friends that I love too much to not talk to them. And I'm going to go exercise. I'm going to get fit by my birthday in just... 7 weeks :) no more procrastination!
What are you going to do?
-bek-

Thursday, November 11, 2010

...well... here it goes!

HI. My name is Becky (or Rebekah - depending on who you talk to. Oh, I guess I was called "Rebecky" too). But for the sake of ease (& laziness ;) ha!) I'm gonna go by "Bek" on here...
So, this is my first blog.
Thanks for checking it out!
I've been reading a couple blogs lately and have really enjoyed the candid musings and sharing of these lives, it makes me a bit more reflective on my own, and... oddly enough... has been giving me the desire to start blogging myself. I don't usually like writing, althought definitely have enjoyed the benefits that have come from it... like journaling, it is really helpful to get thoughts out and down to SEE them! So to have this desire, is a lil odd for me. But, I think its time for me to do this... in this season of life I have been seeking more advice, more "help" and encouragement and just throwing my life out there for helpful & positive input on how to better do things I'm doing. I think I am going to enjoy this.
I am inviting you to read along, be entertained, stay updated & offer some positive or creative ideas you may have that could help me with whatever is happening in my life!  :) Blessings ~